Express Yourself!!

I'm sorry I didn't get to experience this episode with all of you! I'm sure it would have been more fun! Unfortunately, I had to watch it on my own. I will say that 8 minutes into the program I had the impulse to turn it off. It was right after the guy (with a back up chorus) was in the street singing, "They got the mustard out!" As I was about to press the stop button I remembered that I HAD to watch this episode...and so I did. All I can say is that I don't know what drug Joss Whedon was on when he conjured up the idea of making"Buffy" a musical but he needed to "Just Say No!"

Okay, let's move on. The characters are very honest about their feelings when they sing. Xander and Anya sing about their fears within their relationship. Tara sings about how much Willow completes her (as she rises off the bed like the exorcist girl). Giles sings about worrying he's standing in Buffy's way and Spike just wants to "rest in peace". Then there are the wooden-headed dudes. What do they represent? They have wooden heads and are the only characters who don't sing in this episode. That had to be intentional but why? If singing is honesty then not singing would result in lies. Maybe the wooden-headed dudes are like Pinnochio...they both have wooden heads and lie.

I'm reaching and reaching for symbolism in this episode but coming up empty...I think I just got lost inside the corny music!

Week 3: That's what Friends are For: The Stages of Grief in "The Body"

Anya: "I don't understand how this all happens. How we go through this. I mean, I knew her, and then she's -- there's just a body, and I don't understand why she just can't get back in it and not be dead anymore. It's stupid. It's mortal and stupid. And Xander's crying and not talking, and I was having fruit punch, and I thought, well, Joyce will never have fruit punch ever, and she'll never have eggs, or yawn or brush her hair, not ever, and no one will explain to me why!"

-- "The Body" 5.16

It is noteworthy than Anya, Buffy's most "emotionally challenged" character, delivers an astonishngly perfect summary of the sadness and confusion associated with Joyce's death.

Humanity is new to Anya, so she is certainly trying to process how Buffy's friends are reacting to Joyce's passing. For example, she doesn't understand the emotional and psychological reasons behind Willow continuing to change her clothes, but she wants to know why. However, Anya is actually not that far off emotionally from everyone for once; they're all disoriented, upset, and trying to cope. Anya is scolded by Willow for asking questions about the body that are too direct, which is typical for Anya to do, but I believe she is trying to maintain her own sense of normalcy as well. With her speech come tears and sincere emotions about her anger over death, and how she finally knows what it's like to be hurt by death's ripple effect and the uncertainty it creates.

Anya's speech articulates what Buffy can't since she is in a state of shock. Additionally, the other characters express/perform some of the various stages of grief for Buffy:

1) Denial = Dawn doesn't believe Buffy when she tells her the news at school.

2) Anger = Xander punches the wall and blames Glory (the demon) and doctors.

3) Bargaining = Willow changes clothes several times to stall time before they go see Buffy at the morgue.

4) Depression = Anya's teary speech and sense hopelessness.

5) Acceptance = Tara talks with Buffy at the hospital about death. Buffy asks about Tara's mother's death, "Was it sudden?" to which Tara replies, "It always is." Tara also elaborates how death is different for everyone and it's never easy.

Buffy's friends literally help her cope by functioning as various stages of grief. As Xander says: "We'll help. That's what we do. We help Buffy."